Perspective on DUALITY

Perspective on DUALITY... pain, gratitude and just ongoing EPIC love for life.

Yesterday, while I was shopping for jewelry, my favorite dainty necklace with my initial and a tiny diamond just broke in half … I was so sad and immediately put it in my wallet not to lose it. I thought to myself, why did this happen again? It just happened last year and I needed to go to the brand’s boutique in Warsaw to fix it. And then immediately I went to gratitude and thought how freaking lucky I was … this necklace broke in the store and I saw it happening catching it in my hand. Losing it somewhere on the street would hurt so much more, sentimentally at least.

Later on that day, we went to the party and once we got back home … I fell off the stairs while carrying sweatshirts to put them back in the closet. I was wearing long, loose, linen pants and lifted the fabric with my right hand so I wouldn’t trip. Needless to say, my toes looped into the fabric, I slipped and I tripped. Hurt myself terribly and today have dark purple bruises on my arms and a hip. The moment the accident happened I was in so much pain I howled for help! And then after I gathered myself and felt I could still move, I thought to myself, God how lucky I am that I didn’t broke any bones.

Immense gratitude, almost instantly.

This is not the end of this fatum, read on …

Not even 12 hours passed and I smashed my index finger while closing the entrance door to my home. Wind pushed the door shut and it just happened… I squealed and cried out of pain again and thought , now what? I think broke the fu*king finger! My fingernail turned purple but I know I’ll survive. I felt grateful for not breaking the bone, again.

And the self-love lesson in all of this …

I know I’m clumsy and it’s cute and endearing BUT - I didn’t spiral into shaming myself for being clumsy or perhaps not being careful enough. I felt I was my careful self, but those things happened anyways. Besides being clumsy, I’m also bold, charming and courageous. I accept myself and I have lots of love for all parts of me. You need to love it ALL. You WANT TO love it all.

Same with duality of life. It just is and the more you accept it, the faster you move out of the situation and heal.

An odd string of events propelled me to share this. I always say it’s not just flowers, unicorns and butterflies although it might seem that way on the outside. Also, it’s not all about the money that you have or don’t have. Although it would be easier to think that. Sh*t happens to all of us. Hard times happen to each one of us. At deeper levels, there’s more that connects us than separates us.

Sometimes I meet people who don’t know what I mean by saying I’m like a Pollyanna. This is just an example of being like a Pollyanna and focusing on the good even though the situation is pretty bad at the first sight… I clearly see it all, especially the patterns, I don’t by-pass the bad but I allow myself to process it fast and I recognize the fact that jt could have been so much worse and my perspective instantly shifts. My mind and heart get lighter and I’m ready to move on with a smile and music in my heart.

I’m resilient in all areas of my life. Feeling grateful and counting my blessings is part of it. I have the ability to transcend those experiences and instead of immersing myself in pain and staying there longer than needed, I choose to see how protected I am.

The pain will shall pass. It’s good to remember that pain is a flip side of pleasure. We live duality daily. The key to mastery is how fast you can move on.

As always ~

Stay fabulous while on your journey x

Wishing you a wonderful day,

Muah

Love. Malgosia (Margo) 💋